Wedding Vows

Wedding Vows.

Minister: (Groom) will you take (Bride) to be your lawful wife, will you love her, honor and keep her in sickness and in health and forsaking all others keep only unto her so long as you both shall live.

Response: I will.

I (Groom) take you, (Bride) to be my lawful wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health while we both shall live.

Minister: (Bride) will you take (Groom) to be your lawful husband, will you love him, honor and keep him in sickness and in health and forsaking all others keep only unto him so long as you both shall live.

Response: I will.

I (Bride) take you, (Groom) to be my lawful husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health while we both shall live.


These are the vows you say in front of God, Family and Friends. But does anyone ever really listen to them? OR did you stand up there and just regurgitate the words laid out before you like a mindless sheep?

You said them. But did you mean them? Love always first and foremost. Honor no matter what, no disrespect. Keep them in sickness and in health, in their weakest moments and enjoy their triumphs. Forsaking all others put no one before them. Until the day you die.

It is so hard to do what those vows tell us we should be doing. It is hard not to disrespect someone who has hurt you so badly. We are human. But disrespect is not something anyone deserves. How can you look at the person you love the most in this world and call them names, like they have no feelings? How do you degrade someone that you once wrapped your arms around and excitedly proclaimed this is my wife/husband? How do you go from being so in love to sitting on your bathroom floor crying every night? Silently. Alone. How did you get to that point?


It is hard to keep them in sickness. Everyone with an ounce of brain cells knows that this doesnt mean holding the vomit bucket during a bout with the stomach virus. Sickness. The sickness within all of us. The weak parts of us that slowly change from mere parts to full blown monsters. How did you get to the point where turning your back on someone you love was ok? Because youre scared? Because they will destroy you too? Because you dont know how to face a demon that is not your own? Because you dont understand it? Or do you even try to? All your life you are taught to save yourself. Look out for number one. Dont let anyone take you down. Is that what you are applying to your marriage?

Then we get to that last part. Forsaking ALL others. Does this include yourself? Do you forsake yourself for the sake of your marriage? For your vows? Do you make the ultimate sacrifice and put them first. Before you? Before your needs? Because if so, then it makes the sickness part easier, and the disrespect wouldnt exist.

Maybe someone should rewrite these vows. To say what it is you really do. Someone should have something real to say in front of God, Family and Friends. Something like

I promise to only be there for you if your there for me first.
I promise only to love you if you do things for me.
I promise to stand by your side unless it gets to hard.
I promise to be faithful, unless someone else makes me feel better about myself then you do.
I promise to help you battle any demons, unless it happens more then once.
I promise to stand by your side in your sickness, unless it gets to hard for me.
I promise to honor you for a little while.
I promise to stay with you for richer and only richer.
I promise not to call you names, unless you piss me off.
I promise never to scream at you unless i am drunk.
I promise to keep your heart sacred until I am bored with it.
I promise to maintain your trust, until you find out what I have been doing behind your back.
I promise to talk to you, unless I am to busy watching TV.

These are my promises, these are my vows.

If these are what the vows were really. Nobody would get married.